Toya Talks: Sometimes We Need Space

Have you ever been at a place in your relationship you felt it necessary to take a break?  Stepping aside and finding yourself can be vital, especially after years of coexisting in a committed, long-term relationship.

Taking time away from a relationship is sometimes necessary when you and partner are having a lot of issues and frustrations. If you find yourself having the same argument, over and over again or reliving past disagreements maybe it’s necessary for you to take a break. Taking a break helps to alleviate some frustrations from both parties if done mutually and respectfully. 

 If the relationship is becoming increasingly hostile, you no longer hear one another, you can hardly sustain a conversation without it erupting into a full blown fight within minutes in this instance it may be worth looking into calming down and getting yourselves together individually before you can do so collectively. Taking a break allows you to clear the air and focus on your own frustrations away from the relationship. It actually gives you time to digest and understand why some of the issues were occurring in the relationship. 

Learning more about your loved one is, of course, invaluable for a healthy partnership (particularly as far as long-term relationships go.) But somewhere along the way, much like a vessel, we find ourselves falling deeper and deeper into our other half and their whole being, while inevitably losing touch with ourselves and our identity. Taking a break is an opportunity that allows you to return to your partner with a fresh set of eyes and ears. After all, the more you know about yourself, your expectations, desires and dreams, the more you’re capable of bringing to the table as far as your relationship goes. 

Being apart from your other half can truly show you what it is that you’re missing when they’re not beside you. Trial separation is not synonymous with lack of love and/or lack of desire to be with your significant other down the line. On the other hand, if the end result does, indeed, turn out to be a terminal break up as one or both of you decide to go your separate ways, bear in mind that it’s probably for the best — better now than later, right?

In the end taking a break from any relationship must be a mutually agreement between both parties. You can’t take a break if your partner is not willing too. In this instance it’s probably best to compromise if you really love each other or end the relationship if no other agreement can be compromised.  Hopefully if you do decide to take a break you return to the relationship with a fresh outlook. Hopefully  you and your partner are able to enjoy a deeper love because you understand the bond and respect you have for one another. 


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I’m 31 years old. I have loved writing since I was 12 years old. Writing poetry was my favorite pastime that eventually turned into me drafting a short story that I never showed anyone by the way. I started Latoyatalks as a way to begin my blogging journey. I’ve always wanted to write about my personal experiences, and to give advice to others surrounding education and beauty. These are all topics I enjoy and feel connected to. In the future I hope to grow latoyatalks to a website where people can come to find awesome advice, read some compelling stories about my life experiences that hopefully they take something from. Also to help families understand different techniques to educate and care for their family. While also touching base on my favorite beauty and fashion trends! I'm now on Youtube follow my journey there as well! - Latoya

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