My happiness does not come from money are materialistic things. It comes from deeper feelings from within self. I believe you can find what makes you happy by looking at all the things that has made you unhappy.

I’ve re-evaluated my life, the people I’ve allowed to enter and the reasons surrounding why I let them in. I realized a distinct connection between the two. You mentally have to be in a “not so great” place to allow people to come into your life with ill intent. If you can look at a person and know that you gain nothing from them being there, you have to have the strength and will power to remove them.

Now that I’m happier and I can truly say I love “Latoya”! “Love yourself girl or nobody will” Rapped by J. Cole, but felt by Latoya J. Ok!

Firstly I must say that I have focused more on me, what makes me happy, what makes me upset and learning when to let people go. Once you zero in on self you realize those things that make you happy , and won’t accept anything less.

I’ve spent more energy on my children & bettering their futures. As a single parent that is a big concern of mine doing it alone can definitely be hard! On you & your bank accounts 😐, I’ve worked really hard to not let the stress of my circumstances impact my children. I do the best I can to make sure that they are well taking care of, active, and educationally engaged. That makes me happy knowing that I’m doing my best, that I’m focus, and that I’m not bending under the pressure of single motherhood.

I’m happy being alone! I’m in no rush to bring someone into my life, especially because in doing so I at some point will introduce them into the life of my boys. Na-ah I’m not ready! I’m ok being alone, figuring me out, I know what would make me happy in a life long partner, I also know that I’m never settling again so in knowing those two things. I know that I can wait. When it happens, it happens.

Filming! OMGOSH I can’t say enough how much of a lifesaver my camera has been. Although I don’t post many vlogs anymore I still film them and re watch them for myself it’s therapeutic! I get to release all of my feelings, and emotions and then analyze them and find ways to deal through them. #goals right 🙌🏽. There’s no other person that will hold you accountable for your actions other than YOU!

Lastly knowing my worth and knowing my purpose. I know that I’ve knowingly placed myself in some uncomfortable positions mostly due to my own actions, and self reflection at those times. I’m happy to be on the other side and to be able to see clearly. It gives a true meaning to the phrase “life can only be understood backwards, but must be lived forward” if hindsight ain’t 20/20 then I just don’t know what is?!! Now I know what I should and shouldn’t accept, who I should give my time too and who is a waste of my time, energy, and ultimately my happiness.

My purpose on this earth has a whole greater meaning then even I understand, I am such a loving, giving, caring, and genuine person. I go hard for the people who go hard for me. I match the energy that other people give me. I amplify the person that you are to the person that you will become. I’m a diamond, I’m meant to shine, I’m a Leo I’m meant to capture the attention of everyone surrounding me. I’m meant to stand out you cant blend me in, you can’t dim my light or quite me down. You cant seclude me and think you are hiding me from the world! God did not make me to be concealed. I was chosen to be free of mental, physical and emotional abuse and in doing so (in being free) I’ve unleashed another component within myself that I’ve never felt before.

I’m happy because I know, one day I’m going to get it right. All the pieces will fall as they should.  And my trials and tribulations will only be a test the I’ve Aced. That I can recount to others to help them reach their full potential. That I can look back on and rejoice that I’ve made it.

I’m happy y’all!!

-Latoya

They say you GLOW differently when you’re happy! You see this GLOW ✨✨✨✨✨