Toya Talks Tuesday: Letting Go of Negative People.

It’s been said time and time before-The people you encounter or allow to come into your life, are there for a reason, it’s up to us to decipher their purpose. Lately I have been struggling to accept that not everything is meant to transpire. People just like food and other items in our life have an expiration date. At some point they no longer aid, support or benefit us in any way, it is at that point that we must let go. That’s the hardest part… letting go. When you allow a person to become so involved in you, in your life, your goals it’s often a challenging task to do completely away with them.


Last August was my big 3-0! Ever since I’ve crossed that threshold I feel as though I’ve been bombarded with dilemmas, and catch-22’s. Is this what I have to look forward to, is this what 30 is all about?  Please tell me it’s not, if so please send me back to the good ole days where I was concerned about what club/bar had the hottest guys, or the hue of pink I would choose to go on my nails! Instead I’ve been forced to take a look at the people surrounding me and sort of decrypt if you will: their intentions, their goals, are they supportive, can I depend on them if I’m in a bad situation to drop whatever their doing and help me out.!! These all are important questions.


In doing so, I’ve noticed that not many people hold you to the same esteem that you hold them. There’s people that we hold on to that serve absolutely no purpose. Instead they fill you with uncertainty and often question the path that you decided to take. Why do we need these people in our lives? Why do we allow ourselves to entertain others who fill us with self-doubt? Let them go! Leave everything that disturbs your energy in the past.


Is your phone ringing, is the person on the other line liable to put you in a bad mood, or make you upset?  Guess what? You can choose to not answer it!

Did someone ask you to do something you really have no desire to do, but have done so in the past, out of some unknown feeling of obligation?  You still can choose to say No!


If the conclusion of any circumstance negatively affects you- don’t do it, just say no, don’t answer the phone, don’t answer the door. The moment you realize the power you have over your life is so significant, you’ll also realize that what you encounter, you have the option to allow in.

Take a good look at the people surrounding you are they reliable, do they believe in you? If the answer is no, or I don’t know/maybe… let them go. Life is too short to be surrounded by naysayers. Change the energy surrounding you, move people around like a board game until the pieces fit your life. You’ll know you’re in control of the energy around you, when you are able to go to sleep and wake up each day feeling content, and fulfilled.












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I’m 31 years old. I have loved writing since I was 12 years old. Writing poetry was my favorite pastime that eventually turned into me drafting a short story that I never showed anyone by the way. I started Latoyatalks as a way to begin my blogging journey. I’ve always wanted to write about my personal experiences, and to give advice to others surrounding education and beauty. These are all topics I enjoy and feel connected to. In the future I hope to grow latoyatalks to a website where people can come to find awesome advice, read some compelling stories about my life experiences that hopefully they take something from. Also to help families understand different techniques to educate and care for their family. While also touching base on my favorite beauty and fashion trends! I'm now on Youtube follow my journey there as well! - Latoya

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